I have been saying for months that I would blog about my natural hair and the products I use. First off, let me say that I love my natural hair however it takes work. I was reminded of how much work it takes last night when I decided to wash my hair. It took 2 hours just to wash condition and twist my hair. After that debacle I was ready for braids, ASAP.
I put my hair in mini-twist recently and to my surprise it took me 6 hours over the course of two days to complete this style. This is the story of my life. I see a style and then I decide, “hey that looks easy, let me try it!” By the time I am finished the sun has set or I am up until the wee hours of the morning. So to my dear sisters or vanilla mommies with beautiful chocolate princesses, you need to expect hair care to take some time, really a lump sum of time. There have been many nights where I loathed doing my hair, I just wanted to go to bed, but when you have natural hair, you must style it. The whole, “I-will-just let-my-hair-do-it’s-own-thing” is not cute.
So to all the vanilla mommies of chocolate babies, if you are getting your daughters hair braided, pack a lunch, you will be there a while. If you are just getting her hair styled at the salon, bring a book or electronic device, you will be there a while. Every African-American woman can attest to the ungodly amount of hours you will spend at the salon but there is something about walking out of that place “whipping your hair back and forth” that makes all the hours worth it. Because Lord knows, I did not wait all those hours in the salon for my hair to look a mess. My hair must be laid.There are a few essentials you must know about natural hair:
1. Its nappy and curly. Everyone has a different curl pattern. If you are tender headed, God bless you and good luck combing your hair.
2. It must stay moisturized at all times.
3. Keep the hair in as many protective styles (braids, weave, buns, two strand twist, etc.) as possible to prevent from breakage.
4. (For the Vanilla mommies) If you get your child’s hair straightened, do NOT do it in the summer. They will play and sweat it out almost instantly. DO NOT GET IT WET. If their hair gets wet, its over. DONE. The straight hair is now non-existent and the curls are back. Now you just threw away $60 +.
(DISCLAIMER for the vanilla mommies: If your daughters hair is not straightened, then getting it wet won’t hurt it at all. It will just make it more curly.)
Being natural is not for the faint of heart. If you don’t like doing your hair, I recommend you pay for a stylist or go back to the creamy crack. Of course I don’t recommend the creamy crack for everyone but not everyone needs to go natural. You must be willing to put in the time and effort to make sure your hair or your daughter’s hair looks decent. This takes dedication because sometimes my arms feel like they are going to fall off after braiding or twisting my own hair. This desperate place is dangerous because I morph into a child and pout to my self about doing my own hair. This is ridiculous I know, but once your hair is no longer a baby fro and it gets the length you have been praying for; you will find yourself desperate for sleep because you don’t want to go to work looking like a maniac in the morning. All the black brothers will thank you for representing the natural sistas well and not coming out of the house looking like a hot mess. I can’t tell you how many black men have told me how much they like my hair and how glad they are that it looked right because “not every black woman can be natural.” I find it funny sometimes but trust me ladies this is a topic of conversation amongst black men.
Okay people, I am done rambling. Let me tell you about some products that have given my hair life. When I first went natural I could not figure out how to keep my hair moisturized. I tried several products but none of them worked for my hair. Using coconut oil was not enough to keep my hair from feeling dry and brittle.
Thank God for Shea Moisture curl enhancing smoothie. This stuff changed the game. No more dry hair. I put coconut oil in my hair and plus the curl smoothie and my hair has life.
I use creme of nature aragon oil shampoo and conditioner. (There are so many shampoos and conditioners out there. Try a few and see which one works best for your hair.)
Thank for Lord for ECO styler gel. This gel does not flake and performs many miracles for my hair. I would be lost without this stuff.
When you really want to get your edges laid and you have rebellious curly hair on your edges, use Murray’s. This stuff will get your edges to obey. You don’t need to use a lot, just a little. Try it and you will thank me later.
The oil I moisturize my hair with the most is coconut oil. (I also use jojoba oil and olive oil too.)
I have not reached the point in my natural hair journey where I am making my own products but there are plenty of beautiful sistas out there that are vlogging about it and offer great hair tips. I have learned how to style my natural hair from youtube. There are a lot of youtubers out there who make tutorial videos. For my vanilla mommies check out these channels : Donedo Naptural85 My Natural Sistas Mocha Kid.
By no means am I the hair expert. I have learned a lot through trial and error. I will be posting once or twice a month about my natural hair journey. To all you naturals out there, keep going. Your hair is beautiful and so are you!
This is a cute video, watch it.